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Are We Becoming a Hook Up Generation?

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Many people in Canada are starting to ask a very valid question and that is are we becoming a hook up generation? What they mean by that is are we becoming a generation that is only interested in hooking up with partners for a casual night of sex only, abandoning the more traditional dating system.

Old Style Dating

Before the days of the internet, couples would first meet by accident in a supermarket or laundromat, introduce themselves and start to date or they would be introduced to each other by a mutual friend or in a nightclub or bar. Once introduced, if they seemed to get on, they may arrange a date and perhaps follow that with another date. After three or four dates the relationship may grow into one that involved sex.

Dating Today

Although the traditional method of dating does still exist, it is becoming rarer and rarer. One of the reasons for this dwindling in the traditional dating system is the introduction of not just dating sites but also what can be termed as hook up sites which specifically exist to introduce couples who want casual sex without the past necessity of having to go on several dates first.

Original Dating Sites

Dating sites have now been on the internet for several years and had become very popular. The sites first became popular for use by men who were tired of waiting for chance meetings or introductions to women. Later they also became popular with women as well, once they realized that the sites offered discretion however, in the vast majority of cases, these were sites that were meant to introduce couples for the traditional dating system, not for nights of no-strings-attached sex. It soon became clear though that people were using these sites in the hope of finding casual sex and that prompted the founding of hook up dating sites like first, Adult Friend Finder (AFF) and  later Tinder plus others.

Adult Friend Finder

AFF was founded in 1996 and has continuously grown in popularity, especially in the USA, Canada and the UK. The site was founded with the sole intention of introducing individuals, couples or groups of any sex or any sexual orientation, to other like-minded people to share their sexual preferences. The site requires a minimum of joining procedures in order to allow visitors to quickly get into the action which the site encourages its members to share. It was perhaps the rapid success of this site that prompted other, similar sites to open.

Tinder

Tinder is one of these more recent sites and was founded in 2012 and in that short time has grown to become the largest online dating site with more than 50 million visitors each month. Although one of the reasons for this popularity is that it boasts to be for people to meet either for traditional romances or for casual hook ups but, it is clearly orientated more to those looking for casual hook ups than it is to romantic liaisons.

Growing Trend

The increasing popularity of these hook–up sites would certainly indicate that a growing number of people in Canada and elsewhere, are becoming more interested in casual hook ups than they are in meaningful relationships but the question is, is this just a fad or is it becoming the new traditional way od dating?

Age

Indications would show that although the older among us may not be so fixated on easy hook-ups, the younger ones are. One of the reasons for this is probably the fact that the hook-ups sites have appeared more recently but figures show that the average age of hook-up site members is younger than the more traditional dating sites. However, figures can be deceiving as Tinder for instance, actively encourage younger members by charging those that are over 30 years of age, double the membership fees.

Conclusion

If we have not already become a hook up generation then we soon will be. The fact that now, hook ups have become easy from the day we want to start sexual activity, makes it something that the young will want to take advantage of, at least until they think they are ready to settle down, if they ever do. [...]

Why you shouldn’t have sex with your fans

Being an athlete is not without its perk. It has opened doors for me which were sealed shut. Fame and success also have a tendency to open legs. Woman, pretty on the eyes, who promise me the stars, if I would just do them the honour of doing them. You must think I am the luckiest man on earth. These woman tempt but that is all they are, temptation. They have decided to sleep with a stranger because of his status quo. They do not know me from a bar of soap. Call me old fashion, but this is an undesirable trait in my eyes, and I tend to abstain, fans are off limits. I have slipped up before. I’m only human, but it is not worth it. The way they idolise me, it feels artificial, plastic, a relationship they have in their head with a TV personality and I am just the physical aspect of it. Again, you must hate me, poor guy adored by beautiful woman, but I would ask you to reserve your judgment until you have been there. The unspoken aspect of not sleeping with your fans, is that regardless of what we amount to in life the bedroom is where the biggest and bravest of men go to get their feelings hurt. There are a hundred tabloids eagerly waiting for that fan who can give them the scoop, as to how I performed, and an honest review is never a best seller. Maybe I am just paranoid, but millions of woman read those magazines. It is confidence and self-esteem that give me an edge in my line of work, and I cannot have a money hungry fan derail all of that, with the glossy pages of trash reporting. I try keep my best side in the public spot light. I want to be a role model for young people. My mother reads those magazines, and I am never too old for a good smack across the back of the head. Being a good boy makes it easier to get sponsorships and I get invited to nice events. I don’t want to taint my name. My image also affect my proper relationships, how am I to convince a nice woman that I am boyfriend or husband material when a nude photo of me pops up in her Facebook news feed. I am an athlete on the field, off the field I want a normal life and sex life. [...]