Are We Becoming a Hook Up Generation?
Many people in Canada are starting to ask a very valid question and that is are we becoming a hook up generation? What they mean by that is are we becoming a generation that is only interested in hooking up with partners for a casual night of sex only, abandoning the more traditional dating system.
Old Style Dating
Before the days of the internet, couples would first meet by accident in a supermarket or laundromat, introduce themselves and start to date or they would be introduced to each other by a mutual friend or in a nightclub or bar. Once introduced, if they seemed to get on, they may arrange a date and perhaps follow that with another date. After three or four dates the relationship may grow into one that involved sex.
Although the traditional method of dating does still exist, it is becoming rarer and rarer. One of the reasons for this dwindling in the traditional dating system is the introduction of not just dating sites but also what can be termed as hook up sites which specifically exist to introduce couples who want casual sex without the past necessity of having to go on several dates first.
Original Dating Sites
Dating sites have now been on the internet for several years and had become very popular. The sites first became popular for use by men who were tired of waiting for chance meetings or introductions to women. Later they also became popular with women as well, once they realized that the sites offered discretion however, in the vast majority of cases, these were sites that were meant to introduce couples for the traditional dating system, not for nights of no-strings-attached sex. It soon became clear though that people were using these sites in the hope of finding casual sex and that prompted the founding of hook up dating sites like first, Adult Friend Finder (AFF) and later Tinder plus others.
Adult Friend Finder
AFF was founded in 1996 and has continuously grown in popularity, especially in the USA, Canada and the UK. The site was founded with the sole intention of introducing individuals, couples or groups of any sex or any sexual orientation, to other like-minded people to share their sexual preferences. The site requires a minimum of joining procedures in order to allow visitors to quickly get into the action which the site encourages its members to share. It was perhaps the rapid success of this site that prompted other, similar sites to open.
Tinder is one of these more recent sites and was founded in 2012 and in that short time has grown to become the largest online dating site with more than 50 million visitors each month. Although one of the reasons for this popularity is that it boasts to be for people to meet either for traditional romances or for casual hook ups but, it is clearly orientated more to those looking for casual hook ups than it is to romantic liaisons.
The increasing popularity of these hook–up sites would certainly indicate that a growing number of people in Canada and elsewhere, are becoming more interested in casual hook ups than they are in meaningful relationships but the question is, is this just a fad or is it becoming the new traditional way od dating?
Indications would show that although the older among us may not be so fixated on easy hook-ups, the younger ones are. One of the reasons for this is probably the fact that the hook-ups sites have appeared more recently but figures show that the average age of hook-up site members is younger than the more traditional dating sites. However, figures can be deceiving as Tinder for instance, actively encourage younger members by charging those that are over 30 years of age, double the membership fees.
If we have not already become a hook up generation then we soon will be. The fact that now, hook ups have become easy from the day we want to start sexual activity, makes it something that the young will want to take advantage of, at least until they think they are ready to settle down, if they ever do.